David D Transformation Jul / 2010
Mind have you by the balls / balls have your by your mind
->Mind, out of control of mind. you do not control your own thinking. pretending to control thinking and life.
balls have you by mind, because deep part of brain, primal part, and chemicals direct a lot of thinking. creating context, driving things.
sometimes, the out of control moment, is very weird, to hard to face.
? desire to be individual / to be unique could be from the factory?
is your drive an original and invidual? is this we share in common? or is this your pesonal? cultural conditioning?
-dont game the system, dont try to figure out the trick
respect the process inside of us! respect for the power, we can transform, we can go to the next level!
3 brain types
when the reptile brain is seeking pussy, you are completely out of control.
power survival sex.
somtimes brain makes up the story: i want to know the logic behind it.
logic part: this doesnt make sense, and makes up a story.
we really art of control! face the natural powerful process. dont feel alone. it is ok! it is allright.
are you in control
are you mostly in or out of control? mostly (alex)
what is one thing you should do every day in your life?
work, brush teeth, sports, sleep, eat, shit, approach women (grin), love my cat, do 1 h off stuff i like.
what is one think you should, but are not doing in your life?
puh…….. takes 30 minor less
what is one thing you should do every day that if you did do it every day for one year your life would definitly be better
ich mac doch alles was ich will!!
dann koente ich ne cheque ausstellen, dass ich in nem jahr alles schaffe was ich wollte.
david d – dont think we are in control most of the time..
“your power comes from your penis”, when you are not in control, thats what is handing your power away
women will test you – it is part of the amazing mating process.. is the guy really in control of his penis
the more congruence tests come, the more you are on track
when you control the power of the penis, more evolved women (ltr material) will be attracted to you most.
1918 – mind myself in the program
go into BL to learn
what is learning
= behaviour change
if it changed your behaviour it is learning
we are asleep
shared dream, think we are awake.
live in simulation of reality. lost touch of experience.
myth /story that shapes our persrective (imprints, expirience)
waking up and coscience is key to women
in order to chane we have to get out of comfort zone
to get out of comfort zone we have to build base of security
face what makes us uncomfortable
attracting 10 requires authenticity we do not yet have
things that attract a 10 are outside of awareness, need new way of thinking
in short you must transform
men that are obsessesed with getting laid are empty people, attracting unhralthy women
men that found their way attract different tye of women
its not a quick fix. why did i get frustrarted?
increase the level of challenge, so your are forced to increase your skill
long term fullfilment. dont settle
biggest frustration when it comes to keeping an attracting women
:consistency (zu wenig gelengenhiten). escalation in physical. frame und freeze in meiner comfort zone mit anderen leuten. attraction besser hochpumpen können
commonalities: external, technique oriented, situational,
where have you become comfortable to the point where its getting dangerous – your so comfortable you may never be able to change it.
job.. gehalt ..
where would you like your life to be, what other level would you like to get to, but you cant figure out how to motivate yourself to get there
die frage verstehe ich nett
where are you blocked, “impass??”, where you are avoiding and you cant get past ist? blocked internally, emotionally?
ich lass mich von menschen mit falscher energie blockieren. tendenziell meide ich solche leute, es lässt sich aber im beruf nicht immer verhindern. ich versuche dennoch das beste zu machen. und mich wo ich kann auszuklinken.
why do you want to transform yourself?
moment “i will do this, no matter how long it takes, i am going to figure this out”. what is your reason why? i dont care how long it takes.
-> choice. ich weiss nett ob es sexual choice ist. ich will einfach choice in frauen. das ist jetzt so, das war vor 4 monaten so. in will choise mit menschen, mit positiven leute. wann immer. wo immer. ich will skillz. heisst. meine guten, positiven seiten so zu benutzen, die menschen anzuziehen, die ich will (das funktioniert hervorragend im moment und ich bin auf einem grossartigen, tollen weg!)
-> ich will anderen helfen. ich möchte anderen anfängern, frustrierten oder genervten männern weiterhelfen, ihre ziele und wege im leben zu finden. ihre vision, ihr life purpose.
-> eins meiner wirklich sehr sehr hohen ziele wäre ein buch für frauen und für männer zu beschreiben, wie ich mein weg gegangen bin. sozusagen eine anleitung für beide geschlechter im umgang miteinander.
being lived exercise
being breathed excercice
are you thinking or are you being thought
3 areas of life were you are being lived, things that are directing your self. where you didnt want to admit them.
job.. 4 years of emotionaly unhealthy relationship. co workers (distanz halten)
who is the real you
what is required for change? what level is required?
“most of us even cant change if you want to”
making success inevidable
2 ways of achieving success: goal setting (napoleon hill)
problem solving. 80% dont feel good with setting goals.
we need both those muscles.. for goal getters, look at goals and make the steps.
problem solvers: look into future, look back and think: what are the problems I would have needed to solve.
3rd way of achieving success: inevitability thinking
how can i make it so the outcome i achieve is inevitable.
its no problem to figure out, its not goal to work to.
realization, how do i create inevitability.
it is about conditions. so it happens automatically.
“stop drinking, walk to liquor store 2 miles for every drink”
what are your conditions? how to setup success?
whats s.th. you like to do but you cant get yourself to do it?
leading men (sehr abstrakt, aber es geht echt nett bei mir also nehmen wir das mal!)
what is something that is more painfull than that that you will commit to endure if you dont … do s.th. (wie dieser 100€ schein kram)
“getting leverage on yourself”
fastest way to climb a fence -throw your hat over ii
getting good mentor that
group of like minded people (lair)
help other people on the way
reference group / mastermind
very few people are on groups how to figure out how to make their lifes better! (common goals)
leverage, good reward, and penalty
accountability (versteh ich nett) – public commitment you will transform
what is that you need to make inevidable in your life?
-20€ spenden wenn ich was nicht mache
find a mentor
2 laws to change you habit
in order to get different results you have to do different things
in order to do different things you must become not me
(find ich toll die idee, passt zu mir)
do things that arent you. in order to become not me, some part must die. (fuck the shit, keine gnade, kein gewissen). some part must fade. dont become not me just once, continue to become not me! (alex 2.0) – become one new.
got step by step. once you reach the level what you can do consistently, you want to ad another thing. so a nother part has to go. (bin im moment am grübeln, wie ich weiter mache wegen physical / extraction)
contiunual becoming not me, is the only way to change long term. hang onto the new YOU!
think things that arent you.
we hold onto something to identify ourself …
tention in body: unconscious mind is causing that
in life we clynch and hold onto to identify ourself with things. we can let go: “relax”
“anti clynching technique”: consciously pull the muscle, thant relax it. repeat.
self image: we unconscioulsly hang on to ourself, the old self. in order to change, you need to let go. be ok with the old one dying.
the idea who you are is just a simulation. you self image is what you made up in your mind. it will never really be who you are.
obstacles: other people often dont like it when you are outside of your comfort zone.
because it puts them out of their comfort zones. when you are out of your CZ, they get out too
when you change, the things that they do to manipulate you stop working. and they dont like that ///
_________upper control level of cz
– – – – – –
__________ bottom level of cz
what happens when you get close to the edge: everyhting inside you starts to pull you back. mind comes with logical reasons why you should not. your emotions start to become uncomfortable. physical you become uncomfortable.
need to get away.
most people live their whole life in this zone and have 1000 logical reasons. something bad might happen blabla..
but what happens when you get out: break through, change. growth. confidence. if we cross it, something good is going to happen.
we got to face the resistence (danke tyler!)
continually get out of comfort zone (danke alex 2.0): physically, emotionally, logically. all 3 brain realms
BOB! geil! (ich denke das ist das problem was ich im moment hab. ich bin zu sehr in meine cz drin = plateau phase. also machen wir weiter)
physically: tanzen, joggne
emotionally: experience emotions, you normally wont let it (grübel) sharing an emotion with someone else (free hugs?? )
logically: new perspective, new belief systems (danke spn!)
understand thoughts of other people.
we win in life if we get out of cz.
if you got to bake a cake you got to brake some eggs… manchmal wirst du halt auch paar sachen scheisse machen…
n b leads to neuro genesis. generating new neuro connections
repeat the things, you can lay a path over them.
you can keep doing this for the rest of your life. you can keep generating neuro connections for all the life. it keeps the mind young. new behaviour = neuro genesis
keep doing new things, other people will say you are crazy. only crazy people do things differently all the time and get outside the comfort zone.
rockstars live outside of the cultural norm. doings things that arent you, get you there.
crossing over cz: fear comes, crossing over the rush of something new comes. the first hill of the roller coaster comes.
behaviour change is tough. why change is hard..
focusing our will power.. most precious and rare form of energy. (the core). will: intentionality of thought and behaviour.
typicaly we burn out willpower on things that dont help us in the long term
most of time we burn it on external stuff. when we are in negative energy, we burn the energy very inffective. we burn to much energy.
same is with willpower. awareness is most valuable state. when we have willpower, we can focus on routines that help us in our life.
the trick: long term behaviour change. use your little bit of willpower to do something to make it a routine. so it becomes habitual.
take the highes prio thing and do it in the beginning of the day. the earlier you do, the more willpower you have.
mittagspause approachen, statt abends z.b.!!
vokabeln lernen, nach frühstück.
create a practise in advance. “i gotta rember doing it next time”-that doesnt work. what works: is practising, doing it ritualisticly. creat a practise to make yourself do. be automatic.
awareness, the rarest and most valuable state.
doing it all the time, so its just what i do. so it frees up the will power to work on the next one.
what prevents us?
starting all the way up to awareness. awareness is rare.
often, we push it away.
we try to live in the cosy world, we dont want to offend each other, we don want to show that we screwed up.
when awarenes comes, welcome it in.
//das versteh ich noch nicht so ganz…//
get rid of people that burn your willpower!
start conserving that energy.
formula for behaviour change
need to now what the outcome is! be clear what we actually want it to be!
when you are creating the outcome, have it specific and measurable and result oriented.
“financial goal”: “i want to be rich”. unclear, unspecific. want to have 1 mill in cash on the bank in 10 years.
motivation: why. your reason why! 1/3 of humans are the why-learning style. /danke david, warum musst ich jahrelang mathe pauken? ich muss heut nich mal nen dreieck zeichnen/
often the outcome is just the means to get something else.
//erinnert mich an “tussis” – > du suchst keine tussis, du suchst dein social circle… //
what is your why?.
imagine a clear outcome. visualize the outcome. mind is google for goals. your map in your head starts to reorganize. notice the connections. “reticular activating system fires up”. /lustig 🙂 /
mind is like google for goals. but it takes time. repeated visualization and affirmation of clear specific outcome with motivation and reason why thats when it snaps in action and starts pulling you.
future pacing and ankering
future pace is preparing you, that when you arrive in the future you are ready to take action.
future pace yourself: imagine the things that happen when somethings starts. visualize the qoue.
ankering: visualize the future, then tap yourself on the wrist. and then, anytime you tap yourself on the wrist, it will come up.
when doing a new behaviour change prozess, be specific about the outcome. clarify. figure out the why, future pace, ankering.
focus the will power early in the day.
wake up in the moring, look at your goals and the things you want to create, close your eyes and visualize, you will develop the desire, you will create the emotions that will lead to inevitabile to success. you can creat your own motivation and desire.
self help / personal development.
winners manufacture their own optimism.
what triggers optimism.
(mich im spiegel anschauen wenn ich lächele. ja, sehr quer, aber mir fiel das sofort ein)
every recall is a re-frame. anytime you rember from the past, you change it in the process of remembering. pessemisting mood remembering neutral expirience will make you pull it up thinking about it negatively. rember negative aspects, re code it, next time you pull it up it will be negative.
(sehr faszinierend. erinnert mich an meine ex beziehung. wenn ich gut gelaunt bin.. denke ich positiv.
erinnert mich an julia. wenn ich abends immer party hatte gut gelaunt, dachte ich oft an sie)
chose another behaviour we want to change long term
sexual escalation! (yes! ich kann vieles, aber da will ich hin)
clear picture of the outcome that results from this behaviour change: sexuelle extase, lust, leidenschaft innerhalb kurzer zeit eskaliert. sex und liebe vom anfang an.
frauen glücklich machen, mich selbst ausleben.
outcome: bang the world (bang the women) / both sides of book end
motivation: whats the reason why? ich liebe sex, leidenschaft, ich will mich austoben, ich will frauen gute gefühle geben, ich will neue sexuelle horizonte kennenlernen. warum? ganz tief innendrin? weil ich ganz tief in mir ein sehr sinnlicher mensch bin, der die freiheit die er jetzt hat ausleben möchte, kombiniert mit sexueller lust.
what is this going to do for you in life? erfahrungen mit anderen frauen. grösserer scope im sexuellen bereich. und ganz ehrlich: mal bissel mehr erfahrung als nur 2 mädels. evtl. ists die geilste torte die es gibt.. who knows..
naja, ganz tief innen drin will ich wieder das geile gerammel wie mit julia, kombiniert mit fetish mit linde ausleben. ich will frauen wieder zum schwitzen und stöhnen bringen und mich als mann fühlen.
behaviour change: sexual escalation / both sides of book end
-> visualizes this.
a)write on a paper the specific outcome, measurable at a specific time
b)and the behaviour you need to change to get here
c)reason why – whats your why. bigger picture benefit in life.
-> visualize. make a clear picture of the outcome you want. specific and detailed in every way. and make a clear represensation of you behaving in the new way that you will be behaving to create that outcome. imagine how your body will look. how you will feel different, how you will be moving and breathing differently, imagine the posture you will have. and imagine the feeling you will have inside, when you reached the outcome, when you have created this outcome.
time for new behaviour? (wwtd auf hand) . whats something that will be in the evironment.
imagine the quoe coming up, and visualize the new behaviour.
make 2 pictures. one is the que, one is the new behaviour.
make this 5x times. as soon as the que comes up, it triggers the new behaviour.
plan your new behaviour as detailed as possible. it is critical (erinnert mich z.b. armtraining: ich wollte 30 liegestütze schaffen, jetzt bin ich bei 30… regelmässig, abends geübt, vor dem schlafen gehen oder vorm pc / vokabel lernen, regelmässig, täglich beim frühstück, 20-25 vokabeln. / frauen im ikea approachen, regelmässig, abends, wobei ich davon wegkommen werde, da es mir zu wenig bringt im moment und die eingesetzte zeit in keinem verhältnis zum output steht.. ich sags mal so, die anzahl der frauen die ich closen “würde” ist zu gering.. )
commitment 1 to 3 months, see the results, adjust. want to change your behaviour? plan in detail.specific!
getting out of cz requires great inner strength.
einsteins question “is the univese a friendly place”
ja, für mich schon! mittlerweile…
physical to be safe: design your bed with intention (bed = ultimate space of safety and security) //hm.. meine kitten ist immer bei mir = safe and secure!)
reptile brain. your nest, where you recharge. “this is my nest to be safe and secure and relax”. meine wohnung ist so. meine coutch.
emotionaly safe: create a space where you are emotionally safe and secure. is there someone to trust enough “i want to take things to the next level, i want to do things to make me uncomfortable” (tanja, duy, konsi, stefan) “and that i screw up once in a while (peter m, SPN in frankfurt, darius). “i wanna be freaked out, feel anxiety” -> be ok, no matter what happens (practise group)
logical space, intellectual. make some ethical decision. what is right and wrong for you. “i am not going to sneak around” (scheiss email wixdreck bei frauen!)
DVD 3 / No Shame
(hab ich übersprungen)
lying = conscious distortion of your actual perspective
lying = intentionally misleading someone else through omotion(leaving s.th. out) or comission (?)
man is a machine
the spychology of man possible evolution. a lie is prentending to know anything for sure.
all perspectives are partial perspective. no perspective is complete. when you are attached to your perspective, you are lieing.
opposite: facing things without flyching. / honesty, but those people might not face things in life! /
a problem / block / comes down to avoidance. avoiding of the problem – joking, getting angry, playing games..
elefant in the room
thing no one wants to talk to.
when you talk to the elefant, you become powerful.
some people tend to be more or less sensitive emotionally.
more: lot of talent of interactint with people
less: not es emotional: tend to be more cold hard rational decisions.
be straight with emotional people.DONT PUSSY THEM. (erinnert mich stark an tanja!)
whats something you are not facing in your life
// make someone feel understood // DVD3
perspective of life focuses on things and events. cars / sports events. consumerism ( toll, danke david 🙂 )
//ich: beziehungen und emotionen und positive stimmung//
mind normalalises. turns a process in a static thing: freez it.
love: turn the process of 2 people interacting and making feeling for each other, and you freeze that.
love is a process, a thing that happens. (oder aus blueprint: love is a state of trance you self put you in)
freezing takes dynamic out of it.
time binding: we take things that happen over time and make them to one thing in our mind.
“complex relationship” will be frozen into one image.
this leeds to logic “i was pissed at you and I am pissed at you now”. allow it to change and process it!
we freeze those things, make them events and make them part of ourself and our self image.
focusing on the onfolding process. concept of nothing is about there is no thing and not “there is lacking something”. everything i part of process. our bodies change. even cells have intelligence. nothing freezes.
thinking in events and things can mess your brain up.
think in process?
the world changes, but we dont want to. we resist. process of time binding, freezing, normalisation -> creates a challenge.
process in relationship or talking with a woman.
lying is pretending to know anything for certain.
truth might be reporting your ongoing experience as it is happening without expectation that is going to stay the same way.
the truth changes over time.
expect the truth to change. and experience of life changes.
“zen of life” crowding out the opportunity for s.th. mircalous to happen, because were are filling our life with to much things and events.
clinging to events and things, . are you attached to static events from the past?
where have you normalised / where have you taken a dynamic process and made it into a static thing?
?? keine ahnung – vielleicht meine bundi zeit “anstrengend, fordern, hat mir viel gebracht” / verhältnis mit eltern: eingefroren, statisch, fertig.
large groups awarenes trainings
when you are talking and telling people what to do, it turns them off.
but when you are talking about your experience, you are very powerful.
destinction between what happend and your story what happened.
distinction between experience and your judgement.
in modern times we got out of touch what we are experiencing
we got to attached to judgement and prejudice.
we often have the “i am right” tone.
“you are only lying to yourself when you really belief you are right”
you are then closed to other perspectives.
draw destinction between experience and judgement.
Mature vs inmature
shift from depending to independing
-identify what is blocking is, and then remove the block. (magic pill…) . media is programming: instant results are good and are achievable very fast. (klar ist das unsinn!)
“go and buy unneeded stuff, that will make you happier”
instant gratification combined with counter productive behavior= shopping (geil!)
frurstration. intentionally facing frustration. and overcoming it.
“In order to change something, you first must accept it”
Go through acceptance (dont fight resistance)
“try to change -> accept” makes people to stay in they CZ.
accept yourself on all levels if you want to change!
-> grow past and do mentoring!
thinking your are the best or smarter then others keeps you in your box and prevents growing!
your personal myth
“false story, its a mith, a lie”
-> “see the same thing” / relate to the other person!
asus vs. them issue!
-> “we want the same thing” / we sahre the same things!
power is in the “relate”
focus on the “relation” between people
“I get you” / I get you enoug = I understand you, I can relate!
but in the beginning, you often start “are you in my or are you in the other team”
“you like the same style of music as me?” -> musical commonality, values connect! instant rapport!
2 parts of I
one part wants to change / evolve – other one wants to hold oyu back; benefit of discovery and creation, wonder of making your own path.
often the parts in each other are not in sync
other part wants to keep you in your CZ; saftey, knows what works.
Attraction in relationship / longterm
think of it as a wave, you turn up and turn down!
energy to continue and space to breath
keeping your 10, go past attraction >
= holding a women to you, either in or not in your presence
5 qualities to develop to develop GRAVITY
1 quality to develop:
physical quality: POISE.
women see when you lose your composure / poise (gleichgewicht). hears in voicetone. demonstrating throug your body you have physical health, combined with self esteem, status, presence / awareness. awareness about your physical space.
eg. excercise daily and becoming aware, demonstrating you care for it. notice your self, groom, pay and show thatyouare paying attention to yourself.
merging sexual energy into other parts of your life and presence.
emotional quality – passion
passion for interests, passion for relationship
HAVE your purpose, know your path and be passionate about it!
master a piece of your life and master it, become the best of it.
passion is emotion combined with mastering your craft.
TV in society: eg. go on autopilot “let someone else think for us”
when trying to connect to “higher standard” women routines wont help you, those women have a inner radar system you WONT be on. women can sense enjoyment of something.
individually alone, what are you passionate about?
… das ist das problem, wenn man sein hobby zum beruf gemacht hat.. wie bei mir z.b. PC. was ist meine leidenschaft wenn ich allein bin=
what do you like to do that is enriching when you are alone (yourself) – long term fulfillfelmnt?
what are you passionat about in work or business? (creating value for other people), being emotionally enganged..
what are you passionate about socially with other people? doing it togehter.
what will it take to master each craft?
mentor, mastermind, continual education.
what is a action step? what is the first thing you need to do. journey of the 1000 miles begins with the first step.
what are the reminders? where do you put them.
(leidenschaft thema, schon bekannt. das zieht frauen an)
wenn es aufhört, wird deine frau dein leben unangenehm machen .
LIVE WITH PASSION
Finding purpose in life – “what would I do before I die”
look what you can master in life and where it could tribute to the world.
not a profession (trade time for money)
?? what is your level of personal satisfaction and happiness in your life
love everyone – if you hate someone, it eats your energy
key of life: happyness, true happyness, not short happyness.
Attraction code 1 – spontanitiy / no cannend material
dont MAKE the women like you. “i need to trick the wome”. zum glück hab ich das schnell abgelegt.. -> mach das was ich will!
attraction is caused by the internal mindset of a man
if you are state depended, you are still on the road to getting better with women
“tell the women you want to be the man in the relationship”, if she gets to dominant
women angry,yelling ? “I am happy to hear about your feelings, but I dont want to be talked to like that”
1 hour theory, spend 2 hours pratics!
fight social anxietey
“dont care if other make fun of me” bingo bongo 🙂
strive to social freedom
sexual comfortable person, sexually nollable (sp.)
“natural and normal to have sex, and giving a good experience to women”, positivefor both sides
(jaja, kann ich… )
“kill your inner wus – dont be emotionally needy”
things in motion, that are exciting. have a dream thats in progress.
klingt für mich nach live your life with passion, live your dreams
emotional stimulating to another person.
eg “emotional value from beautiful woman”
eg interesting story
eg having fun with other people
-> first give value
plow value during entire relationship, create gravitiy
everyone giving emotional value to a bunch of people becomes a high social value person.
start with emotional value
banther (keine ahnung was das ist)
future projection “we wouldn’ get along cause you woudlnt fit in my space ship”
-> cue her up to give you some value
value exchange is cued up by take aways and directives
directive “cool, tell me more” / “what did you want to be when you were 18”
takeaway – “forced indicator of dis interest”, backturn, stop talking.
dont give away all your power, dacing monkey syndrom
law of instantanious compliance
channels “ec, bl, kino, touching, body, verbals”
when you are giving value on one channeln and make a reasonable directive on another channeln she will comply.
“i have not discovered something new that didnt exist before – i just realized i understood it. and when i understand it i can apply it like 10 x better than the natural because i am concious of what i am doing”
make sure you are giving value on some channel, before going kino
Being a great leader
drawing out the best and bringing out the best in others